KENYA ON A PRECIPICE: SECESSATION OR NOT

When our freedom fathers fought gallantly for us, they did so with such valor and hope for an independent self rule that they knew will bring people together and build a better nation. Some will argue they would be proud of where we are as a united nation and some of equal number will argue the opposite depending on which side of the political divide you are in. Along the way, we forgot the value of creating a “Kenyan people” but succeeded in ethnic identity for which we are going to be punished very dearly.

Ethnicity and tribalism has over the years been gratified and rewarded, politicians have destroyed the only fiber that glued us together as a Kenyan people and replaced us with voting machines that rubber stamps the winner takes all Kenyan leadership dispensation. Open disregard of the constitution, extrajudicial killings becoming a new normal in silencing critics, endemic institutionalized corruption and its gratification, impunity and mutiny structurally engrained in political leadership, tyranny guised as “ruling majority” ,rejection of reforms and democratic principles of governance are pulling Kenya apart to the extreme. She will inevitable implode.

One Nigerian author wrote this on the imminent Nigeria break into three states (Nigeria, Biafra and Oduduwa Republics) “Our history proves that ethnic unity is more of a dusty artifact of an ancient political arrangement than the outcome of genuine political incorporation or enhances cohesion among the different ethnic groups. The fragile state of affairs has been held together by a tsunami of lies and misrepresentations in whose wake the country is reeling perpetually. Successive governments were dominated by evil and murderous perpetrators of crimes. Ethnic fragmentation and persistent hotbeds of political criminality were encouraged and sponsored by the rulers. As a result, we were submerged in ethnic hatred and rabid nationalism that swept throughout the nation like a disease”. I couldn’t have said it better for our own Kenyan situation- quite parallels.

When the tenants of democracy such as unity, justice, equality, fairness and patriotism are disregarded for manipulation, impunity and tribalism in the institutions of governance, this only exacerbates a very bad situation to worse. When the presidency and the legislature cohort to drive an agenda contrary to the spirit of nationalism and cohesion, checks and balances that are a part of a healthy democracy seize to exist, when the highest bidder will have their way to have MPs support and loyalty- legislature loses its morality, when judiciary is rampantly attacked and threatened by politicians, it quickly becomes a derivative of the executive rather than being independent. When rule of law is openly contravened and ignored by those mandated to create laws, when political leaders clearly lack integrity ,leadership virtues and commitment to changing the socio-economic status of their constituents. Tragically, they’re not fighters for a new life for our people but figureheads of the status quo.

When the church drowns into a faint voice of reason, loses its moral standing and respect as it chokes under deep seated tribalism and greed for affirmation from the ruling elite then something is fundamentally wrong with that social structure, Sadly the voices of fearless religious leaders such as Rev Njoya, Bishop Gitari and Archbishop Nding’i Mwana Nzeki that gallantly fought for freedoms we enjoy today are lost in their inept successors. Who will morally check our journey?.

Our democracy have slid towards autocracy, maintaining the outward appearance of democracy through disputed elections every five years, but without respect to and adherence of electoral reforms, the rigors of an impending volcano can be heard from a mile. Peace calls without justice and fairness, blanket calls of “accept and move on” forced down the ‘losers” conscience only ear buds one to the rigors.

Nations don’t break up overnight, years of budding our ears and blinding our eyes to what is tearing us apart gradually leads to a divided society, that which values the status quo and seem to think all is well and another that feels oppressed, marginalized and colonized quests for freedom and change. The identity politics played in Kenya for many years will be our undoing, it creates two polarizing ideologies that do not meet, social democrats and communists but we must start to confront our shortcomings as a nation, correct past mistakes and dream again purposefully together towards one unity…the fundamental question is “can it be done or its already too late? 

LETTER TO MY EX….

I feel emptiness, confusion, loathe ,love ,you make me lose my being.

The sight of yourself ignites a burning sensation of hatred that I never thought I ever hard.

You made me vulnerable and susceptible to your beautiful rugged being

I remember at one point I was so consumed in love I knew nothing else, I couldn’t reason and see life without you in it.

It seemed impossible and life altering never an option.

The feelings for you were so strong that a part of me felt like what we shared was constantly a dejavu moment.

Life with you was so much fun. i would smile, laugh more than ever in my existence.

The sense of your voice,surility you brought ,awesomeness was so intoxicating you made me loose breath many a times

Falling for all these lies ,fallacies and the fad makes me feel stupid and immature.

For a moment I envisioned the life we would share ,the laughter ,the tears, the struggles, the shame, and the ultimate joy that would christen our relationship, goodness you were perfect in my eyes.

Arm in arm I felt very lucky ,you were a conquer, a quest for many but I was Spartacus the last man standing if your arena.

We were “the perfect couple” many of our friends would say, strangers ogling with eyes filled with jealousy but we would smile as if it was obvious and inevitable.

The chemistry we had so insyc,so natural, we many times would finish each other sentences, we blended our diverse personalities to a romance with an aura of blended apple, mango, banana juice.

Your smell so pure so refreshing it would normally give me an instant boner, I knew I wanted myself in yourself, the lust of affection was too overwhelming ,you know what we shared.

I made so much sacrifices, even when things were going against us, my strong beliefs and character at times jerpodised for me to make concessions in the sake of protecting love.

You made me loose apart of me which I intend to find back, you made me gushhh….

HOPE YOU FIND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR….

LETTING GO

Letting go of things that are dear and of utmost importance to us can be painful almost near impossible time in life.We to get so attached to things we love and are apart of our existence thus trying to imagine a world without them seam far from realism.


Many times we find ourselves very engrained into what is familiar and within our comfort zones.thus going against the common -embracing the new can be tasking as well as difficult to contemplate.

This is one of the things of life that is easier to be said than done , a little cliché one may think but reality and fallacy are so intertwined together in this. There things in life we need to let go, the dearly departed, the old house, your dying pet, abusive spouse or lover, the business that is not working, the very sick relative on life support, the addiction that is eroding the fibre of your being , the feelings of connection you have knowing to well this is not leading anywhere.

Intricately these things form the cornerstone of our worlds, every intimate existence they give living a meaning. Dismissing all and starting a fresh is a fear of unknown that is so immense that we don’t want to face only to be left with regrets.

The most important aspect we have to accept and utilize is the notion you can change what you don't confront ,we have to do the right things to at least secure a desirable future that will bring us happiness and contentment.
Having the power to take one through the difficult period when you are almost relapsing is very essential

Sadly we have to find strength in ourselves and make choices that will make our lives better and bring contentment. To find solace in holding onto the past or vaguely good present is a detour that we always take to feel better only in the moment but the beauty of all of this is finding our core character, the values we hold dear in order to positively shape our future.

Humans beings tend to hold onto things that are in essence bad for us but we will not let go,”my gosh it feels so good”. it makes us feel bad but we will be caught up in how good it makes us feel for so long that we strive that it never ends.

We love comfort so much that, that which tend to take it away from us, we start building walls by excuses and empty hopes that one day it will go away by itself. We have to take charge and make hard decions that will be painful but eternally gratifying in future.

There is a void left but what we let go and finding the right thing to fill it with, this will be of critical importance to help us deal with the new person and environment we embrace.The company one keeps also should be positive to encourage you to transition to something better and not to constantly undermine your actions to positivity.

SHUGA PREMIER..REVIEW

SYNOPSIS
 Shuga is a drama that follows the lives, loves and ambitions of a group of young Kenyans whose lives and fabulous futures are balanced on a cutting saw due to their love of living dangerously and doing everything that is deemed fun "enjoying your youth". The series season one was a hit in Kenya with its clear,cutting edge display of young Kenyans abusing love ,sex and drugs.This season included nude,explicit language which captured many viewers as the positive massage of the dangers of these immoral inclinations was wholly captured throughout the season.

REVIEW

The second season premiered monday night with anticipation and expectation high from its sold audience from the first season.I patiently waited for it to start with expection of a quality ,good programme to steal my time away.
This episode deatlt with HIV-AIDS issue very well as we saw violet finaly told the dad her positive status in a subtle way through her editorioal piece she wrote to a publishing magazine in which she actually got the job.

There was the case of sexual abuse suffered by baby from the uncle even we have to wait vand see where it all leads to-though good introduction.

There was also the issue of homosexuality where we saw two girls grinding on each other at the club rather obvious is the gay character who was hanging out with the girls dancing like a sheep on heat.

Characters;
The casting was relatively done well as the actresses and the actors were able to deliver their lines properly with the in-sync emotions.Character development introduction was rather lacking as some characters were just too blur in some scenes, they didn't increase the pace of a scene.e.g the gym scene was somehow too lethargic it did not raise the scene temperatures for the audience(a gym scene should increase temperatures of the audience as they perv on the hot at times half naked people). The guy who approached violet should have been more endearing to the audience-he should have flaunted his six pac for the girls.

Baby and her pervercious uncle were really brought to the audience in a exciting fashion that viewers are able to know who he really is basically keeping us glued to guess what he will do-thus giving the script writers a chance to challenge the viewers formed story and the series story creating a deviation which is always in increasing tension and interest of the audience.

The other characters were relatively well introduced sublime to the environment they were in.Most in the club scene even though they had no dialogue with each other.

Scenes;
Most of the scenes were rather lethagic and lacked a cutting sence to them.From the environment ,action to the dialogue.The club scene for exampled lacked UUUHHH!!!! factor ,the actors were dancing like they have been to a club.too fake to show having fun.They simply didn't get down to the songs like we do it.sorry!!
The show lacked scene stealers(outstanding things in a scene that captures the emotions of the viewers) there was no emphasis for shock actions,language and overall scenes transitions


Dialogue;
The dialogue was rather interesting and well thought.It continuously told the story rather well,not too pacy not too slow.But a times the language diversion was kinder fake and dint go in-sync with Nairobi style of taking.Most Kenyan youth speak swanglish(English pronounced in kiswhaili).


Overall
The first episode was rather lackluster,blur and slightly boring in comparison to the previous season .Lets wait to see whats in store in the coming episodes.
I give it a 5/10....


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LOVE INSANITY or DISORDER

 
Love is a strong emotion that draws us onto an object of desire.Some say its a willing to feel and drawn towards something.We tend to be really connected and attracted to the object in question.Everybody feels it and everybody wonders how to tell if it is real. Here is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. LOVE. Are you really in love?

1. Ask yourself: 'Would I be willing to let her/him go if I believed it was the best thing?'
2. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to wait for this person if s/he is not ready to have sex?'
3. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he gained weight?'
4. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her/his dreams to come true?'
5. Ask yourself: 'Do I respect and admire her/him?'
6. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he got sick?'
7. Ask yourself: 'If you two were in an argument, would you feel the same way?'
8. If you answered 'No' to any of these questions, think about why you gave that answer. Is it a lack of trust? Is it because you're afraid? Is it selfishness? Do you need more time to get to know each other?
9. If you answered 'Yes' to all of these questions, wow, you feel very strongly about this person. It sounds like you're in love!

Now you have strong feelings of attraction to this person or object,lets take a look at what many of us do wrong to ended up with egg face breakup and what we can do to avoid or be better......

1. Many a times we tend to get so inclined emotionally,physically and psychologically towards what we love tend to "stop" living.We get ourselves entangled in emotions we start loosing our core self and character .
Couples in love tend to segregate and isolate themselves from their worlds and zone in to what they find worthwhile and fun.Many will shut friends and family away ignoring all the warning sighs, having a belief anyway, its not perfect he/she will eventually come around.

2.During these times we start making sound decisions with our hearts but rather with our mind.Most start being delusional hoping for the best ,taking in rubbish ,praying their partners in crime will one day change to be everything they want them to be.

3.Ignoring the brakes for conclusive analysis ,many will be heard saying "what we share is just so organic,so spontaneous, i think am in love with right person" without really taking time to evaluate the additions,subtractions the relationship is inputing in their lives.One will find couples meeting withing a short period of time,they start taking babies and how this is their soul mate.Its shocking because it goes even low to teenagers and young adults who are really vulnerable wih their emotions.

4. "Love concurs all" is a quote many will quickly use to help them deal with issues of the heart,rather than using the constructive avenues of getting viable solutions they start making unwarranted concentions that deeply they know will hurt them anyways.Many couples are made to feel they need the other to exits.Alife without the otherv is total oblivion.

5. Being delusional and controlled;this is where abuse(emotionally,physically,physiologically) start and it escalates gradually and before it dawns on one ,its too hard to let, go we crush our minds into accepting the norm.


LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING IF ITS DONE WITH RIGHT PERSON BUT CAN BE VERY UGLY WITH THE WRONG PERSON.a double edged sword it is...

What should we do ,to make it right?..coming...

Valentine post drama

The month of February comes with the eccentricity of love and relationship dos and donts. Many expected to declare their undying love for love ones.so it came and went but all was left was torrid stories of being blown away to utter disappointments. lets share some of the torrent stories..

Anonymous.
On valentines i bought my boyfriend gifts including a shirt worth 17 dollars,chocolates, his favorable CD and expensive wine only for him to tell me he forgot it was valentines ,his reasoning being he had a very long tiring day at work mac you he also canceled our dinner date.He later confessed to being broke and that he will make it up-to me on a special day. I was floored beyond words and i have no idea what to do with him.advice?

ANSWER;

Knowing your spouse or partner is very essential in celebrating these romantic or special events lovers share as this will eventually capitulate in the way both of spend the day.Did you do research or did an unconscious question of his /her like are.this can be done by  telling a story of another couple in similar situations -through this you can gauge his/her reactions thus giving a needed clue of his or her likes.

Secondly we have to be accommodating of our lovers responsibilities and be understanding.Well this translate to the fact that each human being gives different scenarios different seriousness.Some people dont like valentines its common they would say but some its such a day that usherly tunes up romance .So being your boyfriend was tired from along day can be a genuine concern but him forgetting it at all is shocking to say the least.Sit him down and have a candid talk of your issues openly this will both relieve the tension and ultimately bring you closer to one another.communication is key to successful relationships.

John;
My girlfriend is over demanding ,she wanted everything from flowers,dinner date nice clothes i mean she was totally oblivious of the fact that all these costs money.She also refused to give it up as she had promised all along now one year passed.Men advice i love her apart of me wants to move on.

ANSWER;
Your girlfriend is many girls who needs to be loved,she just needs your attention which i reckon you weren't giving that is why she needs to see your commitment through gifts and all that.The good thing is she will come around being all her problem is you.Fix your responsibilities in the relationship and tell her you cannot afford all those stuff but you can be the lover her heart currently craves.Be a romantic and treat her right.

For the sex part,there are some many dynamics to it all e.g is she a virgin,whats her thoughts in sex,is she waiting for marriage-did you two sit down and agreed? .Do what is consensus between you two and bring her around in a romantic way you may get lucky after all.good luck.

James;
I recently kissed a girl and since then i have developed some pimple like stuff on all my body ,am i infected with an STI?

ANSWER;
Am no doctor but what i know its not an STI for they are sexually transmitted .It may just be an allergic reaction from what you ate or she ate.Go see a doctor.Get well soon.

Whitney houston a living music icon , a dead disgrace.

Whitney Elizabeth Houston (August 9, 1963 – February 11, 2012) a music diva,model and aclaimed actress with her awards includuding two Emmy Awards, six Grammy Awards, 30 Billboard Music Awards, and 22 American Music Awards, among a total of 415 career awards in her lifetime. Houston was also one of the world's best-selling music artists, having sold over 170 million albums, singles and videos worldwide.Such a glittering career and achivement so illustrious so magnificent yet cut short in such a disgraceful way.


The world music frateneity was engulfed in mourning of THIS music icon and diva whom died at only 48 years old a hotel in beverly hills.. It was shocking and saddening as the news of her death spread like wild fire.Yesterday i watched with grief as her body was taken to her native home with fans bidding farewell to the falllen queen but without a doubt her death has left us the living with food for thought -to be precise.

Her fight with drugs was an emotinol and draing experience for her behing the whole celebrity face net she wore for her fans .Whitney admitted on the oprah show to using drugs with former husband Bobby Brown, who "laced marijuana with rock cocaine" she told Oprah, "[doing drugs] was an everyday thing... I wasn't happy by that point in time. I was losing myself." This shows the dangers of positive or negative influence we can allow into our lives.the people we give authority to influence our live own and puppet what we can be good or bad.Having a strong character with clear established values will always take us to safer grounds.

Her cause of death has been linked with drug abuse or overdose but this is now being overshdowed with her soulful songs as many pay her tributes.i will not be mean to say the reality is drug abuse is life threatening and effeicient campaigns should gear up to save humanity.We have all in our hands -destroy what we can build or continue building our greatness.

Entertainment lie and cheat people that its okay to live in the moment and "having fun" is trend.Not caring for the vulnerable masses that feed on and breathe through these called celebrities is ominous to say the least.Example ;after chris brown performance many young female fans went on twitter rage declaring he can beat them all he want for their love of him -WTF....gratifying and glofying violence in ignorance .This is a saddening trend with celebrities fans who direct thier fans into the ills of society without caring of it all.

Whitney and amy winehouse deaths are a stark reality catastophy that is awaiting to happen with many of the young minds thinking its "ok" to abuse drugs as long as you dont hurt anyone.The truth is you are hurting yourself and these gods dont have a care in the world what happens to your sad pathetic life.

Let us take a bold stand and SAY NO TO DRUG ABUSE!!!!! we are beautiful and talented in our unique ways and having a life filled with grattide and contentment is achived through realising who we are and our purpose in planet earth....

HER FAN LAST WORDS- for twenty-six years, you've been in my dreams Whitney! a part of me has been with you, through your joys, your sorrows, your pride. Though I never saw your face, through your voice, I felt your spirit and loved you truly and sincerely. God Bless you darling Whitney. Despite what others believed, you were an angel ong us, now, as I sit here, devastated beyond words, at least I know you're where you belong, an angel among angels. Your pain is over! You're Home At Last!

We will always love you.WHITNEY....